What do the English actually mean?

Millions of people all over the world speak and use English on a daily basis, yet there are many hidden rules, cultural nuances and historic references that confuse the international visitor when they arrive in this country.

Spoken English is one of those indirect languages were you need to read between the lines to understand what is actually being meant by the speaker. It is called high context.

The Brits use many phrases and figures of speech that completely baffle the visitor, leading to confusion, lose of face and misinterpretation. One of the many benefits of having Cross Cultural Training is to avoid these embarrassing problems, so you can transition smoothly into the new cultural context from your own country of origin.

Although born in England, I have just returned to live here after 14 years in Australia and I still have to translate what some people mean by the words they use, and the plethora of words used to say something very simple!

For example, a friend said to me: “To be honest, I think when all things are taken into account, when all is said and done, I agree with you”. I couldn’t understand why they didn’t just say “Yes” or “I agree”.

An Australian friend of mine went to a wedding recently and had to ask me what was meant when someone told her that “we were in a real flap because it was chucking it down before the guests arrived”!?

A word my Aussie mates find hard is “jumper” – not thinking there are kangaroos in England!

I take my overseas friends out to eat and they have to ask me what “Toad In the Hole”, “Bubble and Squeak” or even “Bangers and Mash” might be. Let alone expect to drink something called “Bitter” served warm rather than iced, or that English people might actually eat “chip butties!”

“Spending a penny”; “having sloping shoulders”; or “being a snake in the grass” totally confuses international people and suggests that the native speakers are “off their trolley”, “tough nuts to crack”, “barking”, “daft” or simply speaking complete “tosh”?

Of course, if you’ve got the “bottle” to “push the envelope” you might be “on a roll” and not be alarmed by people accelerating over the “sleeping policeman” or catching “the Drain to work”!

If you are still “all at sea” with these examples of common English terms and expressions, please “grasp the nettle” and contact me now for a full explanation!


Oh what a feeling!

Bottle Brush AustraliaOk, so this is my first blog and I’m really excited! I feel energized and full of good things to share with you and to write about, to support, motivate and inspire you.

Embarking on this new global adventure, I feel just like this photograph I took some years ago of a Bottle Brush in bloom in Fremantle, Western Australia; clear, colourful, radiant and shining!

I recently gave up my day job to focus on my training and coaching business and this is making me so happy! To be doing what I want to do, what feels right, following my direction and fulfilling my purpose, at last!

And this is why I am sharing this with you today. Wherever you are and whatever situation you are in, your own potential for success and happiness is right inside you now. When you are ready, you can set yourself free to shine. I know, I have just arrived! So, if you are with me, my first tip to help you is to ask yourself these three key questions

1. What do I want to be in my life?

2. What do I want to do with my life?

3. What do I want to have in my life?

The being, doing and having questions are known, in coaching terms, as goal setting questions.

Answer these questions for yourself and once you have the answers that feel / look / sound / taste / and smell, right for you, then make sure that everyday you are doing things that get you closer to achieving these goals.

In fact, you can ask yourselves these questions everyday! For example, What did I achieve today that gets me closer to what I want to have; who I want to be; and what I want to do?

And you know what will happen – the universe will respond and this is the really exciting bit. If you are true to yourself and if your answers (your goals) are aligned with your personal values (your beliefs and attitudes) – you will be successful and happy.

Like me now, doing what I want to do = supporting, motivating and inspiring people through my work; having what I want to have = my own training and coaching business; and being who I want to be = a catalyst of change and empowerment; helping other people to create exciting new futures for themselves. Join me – it’s a wonderful place to be!